I see a lot dating and relationship writing on public platforms. Some of it shines light on the success found on the other side of the inner work needed to step into the healthy partnership your heart desires and just a glimmer on the struggle before the breakthrough. What about all that stuff that happens before the happy ending? What about the shadow parts of love and growth? It's so normal to struggle in our relationships when we don't have awareness. It truly is. I strugg

I've appeared on three podcasts since I fully claimed Women Can Heal as my life's work. The first one was earlier on in my business. I was battling a cold, not super clear on my message and vision and had difficultly with all the pauses we were taking for the paid advertising between segments. I felt like I floundered a bit with that one. The second podcast appearance was about a year later and was a much different experience. I had done the difficult work to clarify my messa

Yesterday my partner and I signed a year lease on a house in Nevada City, California. After living in cities for 17 years and also in conscious community for 7 I’m ready to try a different pace of living closer to nature and to build a stronger partnership and home with my partner. The process of finding this place was effortless and we knew going into it, it had the potential to be challenging. The housing market is very competitive in that area and yet my partner saw this p

(3) Preserve Yourself EXAMPLE: For those of you who don’t know, in addition to coaching, leading group programs, I also work part time in an elementary school as a reading teacher. In addition to all that I manage an unpredictable autoimmune disorder and am an active member of an intentional living community with a powerful mission. Oh, I’m also doing a ton of deep healing on myself. On top of that I try to engage fully in my longterm partnership. Supporting him in getting hi

First let me say this is in no way implying that you are hard to love. This series was inspired by an answer to a question I had about inner work we can do to make it easier for others to be in healthy relationships with us. Here's a quick overview for you today and check out my guides for the full series where I go in depth: (1) ESTEEM YOURSELF FIRST It’s natural for us to doubt ourselves occasionally but low self-esteem in our love lives can leave us feeling insecure and em

At around 8pm on NYE I was fighting with my partner and wasn’t sure if I’d be ringing in the new year alone. Let me back up. My partner and I spent the holiday apart. I traveled to be with family and he wasn’t comfortable traveling with the Covid surge. I understood, but it still impacted me. I knew coming back would mean me going into quarantine for 10 days. This would extend the amount of time we’d be apart. I felt scared about this. I’m committed to truth, self-responsibil

Happy New Year Everyone! We did it! And by it I mean we made it through the last year. How are you feeling today? Are you excited for what's to come or fearful? I read this quote in a book I was reading this morning and it hit me so hard. Working with fear is such a big part of the healing and self-actualization process. One of my coaching clients and I are diving deep into this and it's amazing. She's right on the cusp of a major breakthrough in discovering her life purpose

"My intention for 2020 is to simply keep going. I don’t feel the need to set a bunch of huge goals this year. I definitely have a vision and I feel that I am right where I need to be. I’m excited for what’s to come and welcome it. I feel fortified and I feel loved." I wrote this in a post on Insta December 31, 2019. It's incredible how true this is today. In 2020... I lived through a global pandemic I stopped teaching in schools and began teaching on the computer. I was order

(6) Finally always remember you are complete and if it feels like there’s a gap you always have the power to fill it EXAMPLE: When I...

(5) Trust that great loves, romantic and platonic come in your life and you might even learn to be the love of your own life EXAMPLE:...

(4) Use this time to get super clear on your values, visions and goals so you’re in the driver’s seat of your love life EXAMPLE: Before I...

(3) Use your time and energy to crush your goals, explore passions and take steps toward living into your life purpose EXAMPLE: For a...

(2) It’s a time to do the inner work to let go of old narratives and shame so you can love yourself and deeply honor your worth EXAMPLE:...

(1) Remember your time alone right now is a time for you to meet yourself EXAMPLE: Starting at a young age I always had a crush, someone...

Recently my partner told me something that took me out of control. He told me he didn't feel comfortable traveling with me to visit...

(5) Having compassion for yourself and your partner where you’d blame and disconnect in the past EXAMPLE: My partner and I have struggled...

(4) Responding instead of reacting when things get tense or when you’re triggered EXAMPLE: My partner and I have a relationship boundary...

(3) Knowing, setting and holding healthy boundaries where you didn’t before EXAMPLE: When I was in my mid 20s I was dating someone I...

(2) Using conflict to learn more about your needs and your partner’s needs EXAMPLE: "Hey you know you can configure your fit bit to your...

Some weeks ago I posted an in-depth series on the 5 ways I think you can heal while dating. I’m turning my focus to “How to Heal In...