This has been a long time coming. I've been struggling for what feels like years to dial in communicating in a way that felt authentic, in real time and devoid of the pressures and expectations to constantly be reaching out with something/anything (whether it was in alignment with me or not) lest you forget about me or worse hit the dreaded unsubscribe/unfollow button. So welcome. You can expect realness with GROWTH NOTES. I'll be sharing stories from my life about thin

Today I wanted to give you a window into what I'm working on in my emotional growth and maturity. Today I'm present to being in a reality I've been anticipating for many months. A while back my partner told me he wanted to take a backpacking trip in June to Yosemite so the reality I was contemplating for months was being apart for 8 days. If you've been around for a bit you already know I have an abandonment wound and struggle with separation anxiety when my partner and I are

If you follow me on Insta you might have noticed I’ve been quiet. That’s because I’ve been focusing on my program Emotional Mastery… as well as being fully present to my own emotional mastery in my personal life. My partnership is in a tough spot. I’m dealing with some non-life threatening health stuff. I picked up some side work that’s I'm earning well in but is bringing up old emotional wounds for me to work through. I’m communing deeper than I ever have with my business Wo

Here's a selfie I took last night and send to some girlfriends before I went downstairs to head out to a romantic Valentine's Day dinner with my partner. After coming off a week of energy expansion with Emotional Mastery I was really looking forward to some quiet intimacy time with my partner. Where we live this time of year seasonal allergies can be a killer and my partner's been struggling with his. When I went downstairs my partner was trying to find his wallet and looki

I'm coming back online from a weekend trip to San Francisco spending time with my partner's family. I didn't expect it, but in addition to the nourishment I got spending time with family, I also had some powerful experiences walking around downtown SF taking in the energy of the city. I had a few nostalgic flashbacks to my times living in big cities. You might now know this but I've also lived in Boston, New York City and Austin, TX so there is a certain frequency that gets

Today marks 5 years of romantic partnership and over 7 years knowing this wonderful man. Just a few nights ago we were chatting in bed reflecting on how far we've come. He said, "You and I have gone through hell together." I laughed out loud but felt the truth of his statement. To some this might seem intense. Our relationship started out as a crucible. Actually, it still is and always will be. It was just really really damn hot in the beginning because there was SO much to b

We've been in a beautiful inquiry on whether or not we want to have kids. It’s been a gentle, intimate and emotionally sober conversation for about a month. We're both committed to growth and healing together and committed to the relationship. We have done so much work together. Like SO much. This inquiry is multi-layered for me. Here are some of the layers: I’m considering this later in life. I’m 39 with an auto-immune disorder that has been in remission for many years but g

When you want to find an cultivate healthy sustainable relationships and love yourself immensely in the process, but keep running into the same painful dating scenarios over and over again while trying to juggle all the other things in your life... It's a perfect recipe for a jaded, hopeless, pessimistic attitude about all this stuff AND a catalyst for taking your toys, going home and swearing off dating completely. So let's talk. There are a few things I want to get clear on

I recently signed a new client who wants support managing her anger. I couldn't be more thrilled to start this work together! Women Can Heal is all about using your love life to heal, grow and be fully self-expressed. In our love lives we can struggle with strong and recurring emotional responses. We can struggle even harder if we aren't aware of what these emotional responses are really trying to tell us. Mine top three emotional responses in dating and relationships were je

I see a lot dating and relationship writing on public platforms. Some of it shines light on the success found on the other side of the inner work needed to step into the healthy partnership your heart desires and just a glimmer on the struggle before the breakthrough. What about all that stuff that happens before the happy ending? What about the shadow parts of love and growth? It's so normal to struggle in our relationships when we don't have awareness. It truly is. I strugg

I've appeared on three podcasts since I fully claimed Women Can Heal as my life's work. The first one was earlier on in my business. I was battling a cold, not super clear on my message and vision and had difficultly with all the pauses we were taking for the paid advertising between segments. I felt like I floundered a bit with that one. The second podcast appearance was about a year later and was a much different experience. I had done the difficult work to clarify my messa

Yesterday my partner and I signed a year lease on a house in Nevada City, California. After living in cities for 17 years and also in conscious community for 7 I’m ready to try a different pace of living closer to nature and to build a stronger partnership and home with my partner. The process of finding this place was effortless and we knew going into it, it had the potential to be challenging. The housing market is very competitive in that area and yet my partner saw this p

(3) Preserve Yourself EXAMPLE: For those of you who don’t know, in addition to coaching, leading group programs, I also work part time in an elementary school as a reading teacher. In addition to all that I manage an unpredictable autoimmune disorder and am an active member of an intentional living community with a powerful mission. Oh, I’m also doing a ton of deep healing on myself. On top of that I try to engage fully in my longterm partnership. Supporting him in getting hi

First let me say this is in no way implying that you are hard to love. This series was inspired by an answer to a question I had about...

At around 8pm on NYE I was fighting with my partner and wasn’t sure if I’d be ringing in the new year alone. Let me back up. My partner...

(6) Finally always remember you are complete and if it feels like there’s a gap you always have the power to fill it EXAMPLE: When I...

(5) Trust that great loves, romantic and platonic come in your life and you might even learn to be the love of your own life EXAMPLE:...

(4) Use this time to get super clear on your values, visions and goals so you’re in the driver’s seat of your love life EXAMPLE: Before I...

(3) Use your time and energy to crush your goals, explore passions and take steps toward living into your life purpose EXAMPLE: For a...

(2) It’s a time to do the inner work to let go of old narratives and shame so you can love yourself and deeply honor your worth EXAMPLE:...