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Welcome to Evolution Artistry. Here you will find personal writing on identity, healing, and becoming. Informed by lived experience with breaking the cycle, chronic illness, long-term sobriety, heartbreak after 40, and spiritual practice. Notes from a life devoted to the art of evolution.
Beginning at the End
Hello and welcome. It feels fitting that the first piece I write in here in almost a year is inspired by an end. Specifically, the end of a relationship. Since writing here, my pieces have focused on healing, dating, and relationships. The blog never had a name. The new name is Evolution Artistry. The name came as a no-brainer because it reflects the one thing I know for certain about being alive: the only thing I am truly meant to do here is evolve. I may get many things wr
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Mar 16
The Final F*ck U of 2022?!
Happy New Years Eve to you! I'm curious how you're feeling the day before we usher in a whole new year? As I survey myself on NYE 2022, I’m reminded of three emotional states/modes I’ve tended to be in on any given NYE. #1: Party Mode #2: Reflection/Gratitude Mode #3: F*ck It Mode 1. Party Mode: This the mode I recall before I started my recovery, healing and embodiment journey. My primary goals on NYE in this mode was to get as decked out as possible, take as many pict
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Dec 31, 2022
2022, you kinda sucked
Towards the end of 2021, I started visioning out 2022... I had such wonderful plans. I had such lofty goals. The Truth? 2022 was a bust for me (at least when it came to my plans). After Christmas 2021 was basically canceled for me due to Covid, I proceeded (though I didn’t realize it at the time) to go way into hiding as I faced emotional struggle, after emotional struggle… after emotional struggle. And I struggled in just about all areas of my life: my relationship, m
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Dec 23, 2022
It's always been me...
This has been a long time coming. I've been struggling for what feels like years to dial in communicating in a way that felt authentic, in real time and devoid of the pressures and expectations to constantly be reaching out with something/anything (whether it was in alignment with me or not) lest you forget about me or worse hit the dreaded unsubscribe/unfollow button. So welcome. You can expect realness with GROWTH NOTES. I'll be sharing stories from my life about thin
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Oct 3, 2022
8 Days Alone, How I'm dealing
Today I wanted to give you a window into what I'm working on in my emotional growth and maturity. Today I'm present to being in a reality I've been anticipating for many months. A while back my partner told me he wanted to take a backpacking trip in June to Yosemite so the reality I was contemplating for months was being apart for 8 days. If you've been around for a bit you already know I have an abandonment wound and struggle with separation anxiety when my partner and I are
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Jun 22, 2022
My mom forgot my birthday this year...
Before I get into this one let me first say that if you’re expecting a newsletter with me unpacking all the upset and anger someone (me) would feel when their mother doesn’t acknowledge them on their birthday this is not that writing piece. This is going to give some context about what happened but focus on the power I unearthed and growth I experienced when I didn’t hear from my mother on my birthday. If you missed it on Instagram, I turned 40 last Wednesday. It was a portal
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Apr 25, 2022
stop trying to figure it all out and rake some pine needles
If you follow me on Insta you might have noticed I’ve been quiet. That’s because I’ve been focusing on my program Emotional Mastery… as well as being fully present to my own emotional mastery in my personal life. My partnership is in a tough spot. I’m dealing with some non-life threatening health stuff. I picked up some side work that’s I'm earning well in but is bringing up old emotional wounds for me to work through. I’m communing deeper than I ever have with my business Wo
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Mar 1, 2022
My awkward Valentine's Day
Here's a selfie I took last night and send to some girlfriends before I went downstairs to head out to a romantic Valentine's Day dinner with my partner. After coming off a week of energy expansion with Emotional Mastery I was really looking forward to some quiet intimacy time with my partner. Where we live this time of year seasonal allergies can be a killer and my partner's been struggling with his. When I went downstairs my partner was trying to find his wallet and looki
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Feb 15, 2022
You're "The One" You're Looking For
I'm coming back online from a weekend trip to San Francisco spending time with my partner's family. I didn't expect it, but in addition to the nourishment I got spending time with family, I also had some powerful experiences walking around downtown SF taking in the energy of the city. I had a few nostalgic flashbacks to my times living in big cities. You might now know this but I've also lived in Boston, New York City and Austin, TX so there is a certain frequency that gets
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Oct 18, 2021
A Vulnerable Reveal
I've been having "writer's block" for about 3 months now despite posting on here pretty consistently. It's been easy to put on my teacher hat and post carousels for you and share all my knowledge about emotional growth and building healthy relationships. It's been heart opening to allow you to feel my care for you as I impart my knowledge. The genuine appreciate I get back from you is seen and deeply felt. It's also been easy to put on my entertainer hat and post reels for yo
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Sep 28, 2021
Why I Make Funny Reels About Serious Stuff
I’ve been getting more and more into Reels as my primary type of content here and it’s been so fun. You may have noticed that most of my reels are for laughs. I know this because I’m usually laughing as I’m recording them or seeing tons of laugh cry emojis in the comments. There are also many of you who are confronted and sometimes pained by the truth delivered in my reels about emotional growth, dating and relationships. I know this because I get DMs, sad face emojis and que
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Sep 12, 2021
5 Years...
Today marks 5 years of romantic partnership and over 7 years knowing this wonderful man. Just a few nights ago we were chatting in bed reflecting on how far we've come. He said, "You and I have gone through hell together." I laughed out loud but felt the truth of his statement. To some this might seem intense. Our relationship started out as a crucible. Actually, it still is and always will be. It was just really really damn hot in the beginning because there was SO much to b
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Jul 3, 2021
Kids or Just Us?
We've been in a beautiful inquiry on whether or not we want to have kids. It’s been a gentle, intimate and emotionally sober conversation for about a month. We're both committed to growth and healing together and committed to the relationship. We have done so much work together. Like SO much. This inquiry is multi-layered for me. Here are some of the layers: I’m considering this later in life. I’m 39 with an auto-immune disorder that has been in remission for many years but g
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Apr 5, 2021
3 Myths About Love That Need to Be Smashed
When you want to find an cultivate healthy sustainable relationships and love yourself immensely in the process, but keep running into the same painful dating scenarios over and over again while trying to juggle all the other things in your life... It's a perfect recipe for a jaded, hopeless, pessimistic attitude about all this stuff AND a catalyst for taking your toys, going home and swearing off dating completely. So let's talk. There are a few things I want to get clear on
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Apr 1, 2021


Evolution
Today I want to share a part of my evolution with you. I took this photo this weekend on the porch of my new home in Northern California. I look around at my surrounding and I see trees everywhere. I close my eyes and I hear nothing. No car horns. No dogs barking. No construction. I breathe in clear fresh crisp air that has the faint smell of chimney smoke. I've been sleeping through the night and waking up a little lighter each morning. I consider myself a city girl. I've li
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Mar 19, 2021


What Our Strong Emotional Responses Teach Us
I recently signed a new client who wants support managing her anger. I couldn't be more thrilled to start this work together! Women Can Heal is all about using your love life to heal, grow and be fully self-expressed. In our love lives we can struggle with strong and recurring emotional responses. We can struggle even harder if we aren't aware of what these emotional responses are really trying to tell us. Mine top three emotional responses in dating and relationships were je
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Mar 18, 2021


Self-Sabotaging Patterns
I see a lot dating and relationship writing on public platforms. Some of it shines light on the success found on the other side of the inner work needed to step into the healthy partnership your heart desires and just a glimmer on the struggle before the breakthrough. What about all that stuff that happens before the happy ending? What about the shadow parts of love and growth? It's so normal to struggle in our relationships when we don't have awareness. It truly is. I strugg
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Mar 16, 2021


How to Date With Depth
I've appeared on three podcasts since I fully claimed Women Can Heal as my life's work. The first one was earlier on in my business. I was battling a cold, not super clear on my message and vision and had difficultly with all the pauses we were taking for the paid advertising between segments. I felt like I floundered a bit with that one. The second podcast appearance was about a year later and was a much different experience. I had done the difficult work to clarify my messa
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Jan 25, 2021


What If It Were Easy?
Yesterday my partner and I signed a year lease on a house in Nevada City, California. After living in cities for 17 years and also in conscious community for 7 I’m ready to try a different pace of living closer to nature and to build a stronger partnership and home with my partner. The process of finding this place was effortless and we knew going into it, it had the potential to be challenging. The housing market is very competitive in that area and yet my partner saw this p
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Jan 17, 2021


How to Make It Easy For People to Love Us (pt. 3)
(3) Preserve Yourself EXAMPLE: For those of you who don’t know, in addition to coaching, leading group programs, I also work part time in an elementary school as a reading teacher. In addition to all that I manage an unpredictable autoimmune disorder and am an active member of an intentional living community with a powerful mission. Oh, I’m also doing a ton of deep healing on myself. On top of that I try to engage fully in my longterm partnership. Supporting him in getting hi
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Jan 5, 2021
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