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Welcome to Evolution Artistry. Here you will find personal writing on identity, healing, and becoming. Informed by lived experience with breaking the cycle, chronic illness, long-term sobriety, heartbreak after 40, and spiritual practice. Notes from a life devoted to the art of evolution.
Your Love Identity Explained
Your identity is who you are, the way you think about yourself, the way you are viewed by the world and the characteristics that define...
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Nov 2, 20202 min read
Every woman who heals herself helps heal all the women before...
One of the ways we can bring more of ourselves to the world, ie to our jobs, to our purpose, to our friendships, families and romantic...
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Nov 1, 20202 min read
Forgive Yourself
For how you felt when they didn’t stay over. For what you thought when they told you they met someone else. For silencing yourself and...
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Oct 31, 20201 min read
How I Date by Design pt.2
Yesterday I shared about asking for the things I wanted in my relationship and how I designed a work-related separation that felt...
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Oct 23, 20202 min read
How I Date by Design pt.1
About a year ago my partner and I did a photoshoot at a nearby lookout in our neighborhood and last night we went for an evening walk and...
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Oct 22, 20202 min read
How to Use Relationship Routines
A morning routine or morning ritual is series of actions you take each morning. . A solo routine allows you to spend time connecting with...
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Oct 21, 20202 min read
Why Self-Responsibility Is So Healing
I have empathy for the frustration we feel when we want something we don’t have yet. I was out there dating for a LONG time. Meeting lots...
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Oct 17, 20202 min read
Why Desire Is a Force Strong Enough to Transform Anything
I had an online journal in my 20s and early 30s. I made an entry on September 8, 2012. I was 30 years old. I did a visioning exercise for...
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Oct 15, 20202 min read
The Healing Process Explained
Some of us touch wounds and pick scabs on our bodies. Some of us go back to emotionally harmful relationships. Some of us stay in jobs we...
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Oct 7, 20201 min read
How To Be Skillful With Your Emotions
I started working with a somatic therapist about a month ago. I’m honestly I’m having the best time ever. Let me explain. I used to have...
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Sep 28, 20202 min read
6 Marks of a Healthy Relationship
I had the most enjoyable conversation with Christine Mason founder of @rosebudwoman this morning to talk about my approach to dating and...
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Sep 17, 20202 min read
Human Attraction Explained
There are billions of people in the world so why are we mostly attracted to a select few? Today I wanted to outline some of the conscious...
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Sep 15, 20202 min read
How We Heal in Partnership
We can get hurt in relationships but we can also heal in relationships. . Here are some ways we heal: Using conflict to spot, inform and...
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Sep 9, 20201 min read
7 Statements Women Should Use Regularly
No I want... I need... I don't like that. I'd like to finish my thought When you (action) I felt (emotion) I would like some space....
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Sep 8, 20201 min read
Safety Falls To Us First and Foremost
You get the best version of me when I feel safe with you. ...and want to add that creating safety falls to us first and foremost. . I...
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Sep 5, 20201 min read
Why Goodbye Can Be The Highest Form of Self-Care
I've been thinking about how breakups have changed their meaning for me as I've progressed along in my healing journey. A break up used...
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Aug 30, 20202 min read
You're Not Asking For Too Much
I don’t know who needs to read this today but... you’re not asking for too much. Here's the thing. You think you’re asking for too much...
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Aug 28, 20201 min read
How To Stop Breaking Your Own Heart
Many of us think that when we're heartbroken it's because of something out there. Consider the ways we break our own hearts: We pick...
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Aug 5, 20202 min read
How Women Heal Inside Partnership
It’s 10:45pm. I’m upset about something and want to talk about it with my partner. His time to wind down and get ready for bed is 11pm....
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Aug 2, 20202 min read
The Sweet Spot
If you've tried to turn a hookup into relationship... If you've tried to create more passion in the bedroom with your longterm partner...
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Jul 4, 20202 min read
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