Safety Falls To Us First and Foremost

You get the best version of me when I feel safe with you.

...and want to add that creating safety falls to us first and foremost.

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I want to focus on emotional safety in dating and relationships with this one.

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When it comes to emotional safety here are some of the hallmarks:

• You trust that the other person has your best interest at heart

• You feel your partner is accountable and reliable

• They say what they mean and mean what they say

• No name calling or use of demeaning language toward you

• Your significant other takes responsibility for their own feelings, not casting blame onto you

• Your partner does not threaten the relationship to gain control

• They treat your relationship as if it is a living breathing entity

• Your partners negotiate their individual needs

• They are open to having difficult conversations and strive for win-win solutions

• Your significant other is willing to undo or break destructive patterns and generational cycles knowing that history does not define them and the relationship

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That's a hefty list right?

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And that is a short list!

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Here's the thing:

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As much as you long for all the qualities listed above in a romantic relationship...

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...you will not GET THIS until you GIVE IT.

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...you will not HAVE IT until you BECOME IT.

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Creating emotional safety in your love relationships is our responsibility because it starts with us.

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Ohhh so curious what your thoughts are about this one.

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Love,

Michele

🌿Women's Mentor @womencanheal