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Welcome to Evolution Artistry. Here you will find personal writing on identity, healing, and becoming. Informed by lived experience with breaking the cycle, chronic illness, long-term sobriety, heartbreak after 40, and spiritual practice. Notes from a life devoted to the art of evolution.
What to Remember When You Doubt You'll Ever Find Someone pt. 2
(2) It’s a time to do the inner work to let go of old narratives and shame so you can love yourself and deeply honor your worth EXAMPLE:...
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Dec 26, 20202 min read
What to Remember When You Doubt You'll Ever Find Someone pt. 1
(1) Remember your time alone right now is a time for you to meet yourself EXAMPLE: Starting at a young age I always had a crush, someone...
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Dec 24, 20202 min read
When Your Relationship Takes a Hit
Recently my partner told me something that took me out of control. He told me he didn't feel comfortable traveling with me to visit...
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Dec 16, 20202 min read
How to Heal In Partnership pt. 5
(5) Having compassion for yourself and your partner where you’d blame and disconnect in the past EXAMPLE: My partner and I have struggled...
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Dec 14, 20202 min read
How to Heal In Partnership pt. 4
(4) Responding instead of reacting when things get tense or when you’re triggered EXAMPLE: My partner and I have a relationship boundary...
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Dec 13, 20202 min read
How to Heal In Partnership pt. 3
(3) Knowing, setting and holding healthy boundaries where you didn’t before EXAMPLE: When I was in my mid 20s I was dating someone I...
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Dec 12, 20202 min read
How to Heal While In Partnership pt. 1
Some weeks ago I posted an in-depth series on the 5 ways I think you can heal while dating. I’m turning my focus to “How to Heal In...
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Dec 9, 20202 min read
How to Heal While Dating pt. 5
It’s been so wonderful to go in depth on each of the 5 ways I think we heal while dating/looking for longterm committed relationships....
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Nov 16, 20202 min read
How to Heal While Dating pt. 4
The next way we can heal while we’re dating and seeking committed relationship is all about boundaries. (4) Empowering yourself by...
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Nov 15, 20202 min read
How to Heal While Dating pt. 3
I want to continue this conversation about the ways we can heal while we're in the process of seeking committed relationships. (3)...
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Nov 14, 20202 min read
How to Heal While Dating pt. 2
Today let's talk about the next way I think you can heal while you are dating and seeking committed relationship. (2) Defining and...
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Nov 11, 20202 min read
How to Heal While Dating pt.1
Last week I posted “How to Heal While Dating” and shared 5 ways we can keep healing ourselves while we are dating and seeing committed...
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Nov 10, 20202 min read
Every woman who heals herself helps heal all the women before...
One of the ways we can bring more of ourselves to the world, ie to our jobs, to our purpose, to our friendships, families and romantic...
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Nov 1, 20202 min read
Forgive Yourself
For how you felt when they didn’t stay over. For what you thought when they told you they met someone else. For silencing yourself and...
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Oct 31, 20201 min read
Why Self-Responsibility Is So Healing
I have empathy for the frustration we feel when we want something we don’t have yet. I was out there dating for a LONG time. Meeting lots...
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Oct 17, 20202 min read
The Healing Process Explained
Some of us touch wounds and pick scabs on our bodies. Some of us go back to emotionally harmful relationships. Some of us stay in jobs we...
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Oct 7, 20201 min read
How To Be Skillful With Your Emotions
I started working with a somatic therapist about a month ago. I’m honestly I’m having the best time ever. Let me explain. I used to have...
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Sep 28, 20202 min read
How We Heal in Partnership
We can get hurt in relationships but we can also heal in relationships. . Here are some ways we heal: Using conflict to spot, inform and...
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Sep 9, 20201 min read
Safety Falls To Us First and Foremost
You get the best version of me when I feel safe with you. ...and want to add that creating safety falls to us first and foremost. . I...
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Sep 5, 20201 min read
Why Goodbye Can Be The Highest Form of Self-Care
I've been thinking about how breakups have changed their meaning for me as I've progressed along in my healing journey. A break up used...
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Aug 30, 20202 min read
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