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4 Things You Should Never Feel Guilty For

Finding someone to be in a long-term relationship with can take some time, and along the way, we can certainly experience many twists and turns and feel lost. Susan Forward, author Emotional Blackmail, discusses FOG that can blind us. FOG stands for Fear, Obligation and Guilt. Here are 4 things you should never feel guilty for in dating and relationships: 1. Making Changes to Improve Yourself - when you do the difficult work to really look at yourself and your environment and decide it’s time to make a change, feelings of guilt about who you may leave behind can flare up. Remember that your responsibility is to you and your happiness and fulfillment. 2. Knowing Your Own Worth - Knowing your worth means you can stand up for yourself and take actions that benefit you. Often standing up for yourself can ruffle the feathers of others who don’t yet know their own worth. Remember knowing your own value and living into it is the ultimate act of self-love. 3. Staying True to Your Vision - If you want to go somewhere you need to know where you are going. Take time to create a clear vision of what you want in your love life and then commit to it. This is your North Star. Remember you will encounter many distractions along the way. You don’t have to feel bad for staying on your path. 4. Standing Up For Your Needs and Desires - This is a big one. So many of us lose ourselves in relationships because we are out of touch with our own needs and desires. Cultivate a strong practice of self-preservation by getting intimate with your emotional needs and your desires and advocate for them. These are your life lines in relationships. Remember if you can’t love yourself enough to stand up for your own needs and desires another person won’t be able to either. If you’d like support with transforming your relationship with FOG as it relates to your love life send me a DM and we can set up a chat! Love, Michele Founder of @womencanheal


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