It’s hard to describe the exact moment heartbreak roots down
Maybe it comes like a tidal wave when the person you thought you’d spend your life with tells you it’s over.
Maybe it’s a slow unraveling, the kind that happens when you’ve been holding on to a marriage or relationship far longer than it’s been good for you.
Or perhaps it’s something deeper, quieter, and familiar long after they have moved out and moved on from you and the relationship. An old hurt reopening-- abandonment, rejection, or betrayal that takes you right back to the chaos of your childhood. You feel stuck between grief and a strange hope that they’ll come back, even though you know they won’t.
No matter how it arrives, heartbreak shakes your world in ways that no one else who hasn't experienced it can fully understand.
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Are you going through a breakup or divorce, facing a major life shift and feeling like nothing makes sense anymore?
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Have you tried program after program, followed all the advice, but you still feel like you’ve only scratched the surface of the real healing you need?
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Do you find yourself stuck in obsessive thinking, reliving every moment, every conversation, and fixated on how things could have been different?
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Do you feel like no matter how much you focus on “self-love,” there’s still an unresolved part of your past that’s shaping your current heartbreak?
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Did you grow up in a family that didn't show love in a healthy way, and now every break-up feels like it cuts even deeper?
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Have you been looking for something deeper, something that will help you break the cycle of heartbreak and rebuild your life from the ground up?
When you start to search for answers the world is quick to offer their solutions
Therapy is one path and it can be an incredibly helpful tool. But if you decide to explore the marketplace for healing heartbreak, you'll quickly find it's oversaturated with advice and “proven” methods on the right way to heal from this.
A lot of guidance online and in books tells you to “stay positive” and “distract yourself with new activities and hobbies”.
Some say, “Prove you’re better off without them by leveling up your entire life!? #revengeglowup”
And some say, “Cut off all contact and move on.”
But if you’re here, you already know that most of these approaches only scratch the surface.
And maybe, in the short term, those things seem to help—until they don’t.
What This Guidance Misses...
The depth of the heartbreak experience. It’s not just about “getting over it” or “moving on”. It’s about understanding the layers underneath the hurt, the patterns that have shaped your relationships, and the opportunity for growth that heartbreak offers.
GROUNDWORK is an invitation to go deeper, to explore the full emotional landscape of heartbreak, and to connect with the deeper transformation it can offer. I plan to take a different approach from the “quick-fix” and surface-level methods you see out there, and this approach comes from my direct experience with heartbreak.
Rather than doing things to subconsciously escape or bypass your heartbreak, you’ll learn the how of working with heartbreak in a way that leads to lasting transformation.
Flow of the Class Series
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Dec 2nd - 10am PST
Meeting the Spirt of Heartbreak
We often view heartbreak as something to be conquered or pushed aside. But what if we could relate to it differently?
On day one, you’ll be invited to shift your perspective, seeing heartbreak as a transformative energy—something that, when approached with openness, can offer valuable lessons and growth.
Heartbreak, as a teacher, invites us to reframe our pain, shifting from resistance to openness, allowing us to connect with its deeper lessons.
What We’ll Explore:
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How heartbreak can be a force for transformation.
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Your current relationship with heartbreak—enemy or ally?
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How reframing heartbreak as a guide can change the way you heal.
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Dec 3rd - 12:30pm PST
Clean vs Complicated Grief
Heartbreak isn’t always about what's happening right in front of you. Often, it stirs up old wounds from the past.
On day two, you'll learn how to start recognizing your layers on grief and learn steps to start separating them so you can look back at this heartbreak more clearly.
Heartbreak, as a teacher, lovingly challenges us to disentangle past wounds from present grief, helping us see clearly what’s truly being grieved.
What We’ll Explore:
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The difference between clean grief (present pain) and complicated grief (old wounds).
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Why resisting grief keeps you stuck—and why grieving is essential for true healing.
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How to recognize when old wounds are surfacing during heartbreak.
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Dec 4th - 3pm PST
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It's Complicated!
When we keep a relationship alive in our minds, we resist fully letting go, creating an “active” connection that delays closure.
On day three, we’ll explore how heartbreak can illuminate if we are relying on negative fantasy and/or positive fantasy to self-soothe and show us the impact on our healing journey.
Heartbreak, as a teacher, asks us to recognize these mental loops, confront what they reveal about our inner world, and practice techniques to bring ourselves back to reality.
What We’ll Explore:
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The difference between idealizing the past (positive fantasy) and fixating on worst-case scenarios (negative fantasy)
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The ways that these mental loops can block acceptance and prevent the closure needed to truly heal and move forward.
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Simple techniques to help you stay present in your healing journey.
This is just the beginning...
GROUNDWORK is designed to introduce you to concepts so you can start to shift your perspective on heartbreak. It’s not about “fixing” the pain but about understanding it on a deeper level—and using that understanding as a foundation for continued work and lasting change.
After these three days, you’ll have a clearer sense of how to navigate your healing in a new way. And for those who are ready to dive even deeper, this is just the beginning of the journey we’ll explore together in an upcoming paid program—a transformative journey into healing heartbreak at its roots.
Hello. I'm Michele.
I'm a lot of things...
and for the purposes of this offering, I'm a guide for people navigating the complexities of heartbreak and personal growth. Sure, I have a background in psychology, over 15 years of teaching experience, and 8 years of coaching under my belt, but my biggest flex is my lived experience over the last two years navigating my own heartbreak. I created this class series to share what I discovered. GROUNDWORK is the first step in discovering the hidden wisdom of heartbreak and using it consciously to rebuild from the ground up.
Frequently Asked Qs
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Do I have to finish the course in a certain time period?Yes and no. While this program is designed to be completed over six week (one session per week) it is not a requirement. Once you register for the program you’ll have lifetime access to the Emotional Mastery material so you are free to design your own schedule and go at your own pace if you so choose. All of the videos, digital workbooks and bonuses are yours to keep forever so please take as long as you like to work through the material if you want to.
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So, is this course like therapy?No. This is an educational course. While I do have a Psychology Degree and Masters of Education, I am not a licensed mental health professional and I do not provide psychotherapy, counseling, or any other mental health services that would require a license. What I provide in this course is education, training and access to coaching and Q&A videos about dating, relationships, healing and personal growth that all have the potential for substantial learning and life transformation.
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I am working with a therapist already. Is it ok to take a course like this?ABSOLUTELY! And… I would mention it to your therapist. Here are my thoughts. Working with both a therapist and taking a transformational course like this can be a wonderful and complementary experience. In therapy, you get to look at every part of yourself that has shaped you into the person you are. With an online course like Date With Depth, created by a certified coach, you’ll get to look at who you are right now AND who you want to be. Having both a therapist and course like this can support each other as knowing how you came to be where you are will often help you become the person you want to be.
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Is this course LGBTQ friendly and inclusive of diverse relationship models?Sure is! As the guide for this program, I’m in a heterosexual coupleship and use personal stories to teach the content inside Date With Depth. The course is not gender specific or oriented toward any specific sexual orientation. I welcome any feedback that will help make this program more inclusive as you go through the program.
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What if I need more support? Is this program available with coaching?Yes! Inside the course portal I share more information about how to get private coaching support while taking this course.